An OPEN LETTER To a 20+ WOMAN

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This is for a woman, who is in her twenties and  is struggling with the most important choices in her life. Career. Marriage. Education. Relationships.

Michelle Obama said, “There is no boy at this age that is cute enough or interesting enough to stop you from getting your education. If I had worried about who liked me and who thought I was cute when I was your age, I wouldn’t be married to the President of The United States.”

As soon as you are in your twenties, all the aunties and uncles you met in your entire lifetime, fantasise to see you as a bride. They will do every effort to set you up with a guy, so that they get a chance to attend your marriage.

Some of your friends are also getting hitched. Few get the permission to pursue their dreams and are allowed to take up a career of their choice.

Then there is this girl, unsure about her relationship, not ready for marriage, undecided and confused about her career.

You can relate to her. Right?

No, I am not going to glorify the life of a confused 20 something. I think Bollywood is doing a great job at it.

I am going to talk about what a 20 something woman should be doing about worries that haunt her.

  • MARRIAGE

To marry or not to marry. This is something that will muddle you up most of the times.

Ask yourself, are you really ready for it?

Real marriage is going to be something far beyond jewellery shopping and honeymoon planning.

Do you feel it is time for you to take responsibility?

Don’t give in because everyone else thinks it’s the right time to get hitched. Marry only if you want to take up the challenge. 

Because all those who make you think it is the right time to get married, are going to vanish when you will be clean- bowled by the realities of marriage.

Nobody talks about it. But that’s the truth, you should be prepared for.

  • ARRANGED MARRIAGE

Don’t allow a random relative who meets you 20 years later at a family function make a choice about your life partner.

You are going to live with that person for the rest of your life.

Compatibility and tastes do matter. 

Everybody is not perfect for everyone else.

Make an informed choice, not a compromise.

  • CAREER FIRST

Your education is something that is going to stay with you forever. You don’t know what challenges destiny is going to throw in front of you.

The least you can do is be financially independent so that you are not a burden on anyone.

  • RESPECT YOUR INDIVIDUALITY

Everybody in this world is different from the other person.

RESPECT YOURSELF.

REMEMBER: There is nobody and no cause in this world, big enough to compromise on self respect .

If you keep this in mind, you will be able to sort out most of your relationship issues.

  • BE AN INDEPENDENT WOMAN

If you know atleast one person in your family who is divorced, then you should not ignore this.

I don’t wish this happens to you as well.

But this is the ground reality.

You don’t want to spend the rest of your life strangled in a toxic relationship, compromising each day and hoping sun will shine at you someday!

Be an independent woman.

You have only one life. You have all the rights to be lead it happily. 

Be your own master. 

If you are not independent, you make yourself vulnerable to more problems because people take advantage of your weakness

Learn to live for yourself. Learn to live on your own. Life will move on and you can walk alone!

You have one life. Make it the best for you. Don’t be a woman whom everyone pities.

You have the power inside you , to make this life best for you.

By this I don’t mean to make you a selfish woman, but to empower a woman who deserves to live her life in the best way!

Concluding with another quote by Michelle Obama, ” There is no limit to what we, as women can accomplish.”

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